Follow this link to rush order these hilarious Father’s Day cards. Trust us. It’s the best thing you could do.
You’ve made Dad cry enough over the years. Give him a good laugh this Sunday!
Xo,
The Ultimate Betties
Father’s Day
Reply
Tag Archives: random
Live life simply
As we sit here and transfer our winter clothes out for our summer clothes, we can’t help but be overwhelmed. We have way too much sh*t! We’re girls what do you want from us?!
However, this is also the perfect time for us to get rid of anything we haven’t worn in a while. Most people say if you haven’t worn it in 6 months it’s time to toss it. That can be hard for us because everything comes back into style it seems or we have some attachment to the piece. But we know other people can use the clothes we haven’t worn more than we need them collecting dust in our drawers.
This also reminds us of how a great man once lived so simply that he didn’t collect anything and only traveled with what he could carry with him. Every now and then we think about how Gandhi’s way of living made his life more simple. We admire that and helps us to rid the rest of the stuff that we are wrongly holding onto.
Whatever works for you, do it. Live more simply, give your old stuff away to charities or to anyone you know who needs it more than YOU.
XO,
The Ultimate Betties
The grass could be greener
We all know the saying:
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
Well we call BS! Obviously it has and can definitely be proven true but when we hear that saying it just makes us think negatively. These Betties are always “half full” so we do our best to push the negativity out of our lives.
Just because you’re not particularly happy in the situation you may be in currently, does not mean you have to stay there. Everyone is putting the bug in your ear that what may be your next move won’t prove as hopeful as you’d like. They’re the ones who are missing out, not you.
They may be right, it could turn out to be a worse situation but again, you never know until you try. At least you will have that one up on them, taking chances and learning new things.
Moving up or on never hurt anyone in the long run. Do what you want!
xo,
The Ultimate Betties
Single, Sassy, & Proud of IT!
Friday’s are dedicated to “What we learned” this week, but not today. A fan of ours posted a picture on Instagram that made us feel compelled to dedicate today’s post to being single.
Traditionally speaking being single is looked down upon. Especially the older we get. People will gossip and judge at weddings and say, ‘She’s pushing 26 can you believe she is still single?’ First off, we are firm believers that there is no RIGHT age to be married. We also feel that your twenties are meant for soul searching. If the person you are with now can deal with your mood swings all through your golden years; he’s probably a keeper. If he can’t…. on to the next one.
Our generation is very fortunate. Woman are completely empowered. More woman go to school than men. More woman these days are climbing the corporate ladder and even owning their own businesses. Basically, we aren’t just put on this earth to find our ‘true love’ and become the next stepford wife. We are able to explore and fulfill OUR dreams. If you aren’t already married or have a child (hell even if you do have a child) this is the time to travel, try out different career paths, enroll in school, go out with your girlfriends, and explore your options for dating.
Unless someone comes along that lifts you up, supports you in any endeavor, and allows you space to breathe – don’t settle. You are amazing and it should take a lot for someone to swoop you off the market. Once you are in a relationship everything becomes “we” or “us”. That person has to be extremely special. If they aren’t – have fun and let yourself be selfish. Until you are 100% in love with yourself you can never fully love another person.
So next time you are at a social gathering, ignore those glares, and be proud for taking this time to find yourself. More importantly, be proud that you didn’t settle for some schmuck who really doesn’t care about you, your well-being, and supports yours dreams and goals. We have come too far Betties to go back now.
Xo,
The Ultimate Betties
Take a Risk
Lately, we’ve been thinking of doing something out of our comfort zone. Everyone has their view on what a risk really is because let’s be honest not everyone has the same comfort level.
For us, doing something like bungee jumping, skydiving or anything outdoors that provides that rush of excitement and fear is slightly out of our zone. However, it’s always looming in the back of our heads.
Time is ticking and in life the best experiences we’ve had are the ones we either least expected to happen or were afraid of happening. The more you make everyday or every week exciting and facing your fears the better life will become.
Have you done anything out of your comfort zone? If you have please let us know about your experience!
xo,
The Ultimate Betties
Summer Fragrances
Summer is here! As we all know, it’s filled with beautiful weather, lavish vacations, cute boys, and itty bitty bikini’s. It’s our favorite time of the year! We want to share with our top ten favorite fragrances so you can smell lovely all throughout the hot summer days.
- Signorina – Salvatore Ferragamo
- Candy – Prada
- Daisy – Marc Jacobs
- Acqua Di Gio – Giorgio Armani
- Especially Escada – Escada
Desire – Dolce & Gabana- Miss Dior – Dior
- Cherry In the Air – Escada
- Beach – Bobbi Brown
- Flowers – Philosophy
These can be found at any department store or Sephora. Go check them out and see which one fits your summer personality.
Happy Wednesday!
Xo,
West Coast Betty
Resilience
What did we learn this week? A Betty who can master being resilient will always be fen steps ahead of you.
Resilience is defined as the ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy.
For example: you have worked for an ass of a boss for two years. He promised you a raise and promotion. Instead, he fires you. You had your heart set on that. Not to mention, many financial goals and plans based off your new raise. Instead of moping or plotting your revenge; be resilient. Brush it off and go find something better.
In life you have to learn to bounce back from everything. Those who dwell on things can never move forward in a positive way.
So next time life hits you with a curveball remember to be resilient.
Xo,
The Ultimate Betty
Never doubt a female..seriously.
Anything you can do I can do better.
Remember that little chant growing up? Well, last night one of these Betties got to prove just how right it can be.
I had a little build-it-yourself storage shelf to put together. As I texted one of my male friends the picture of what I was about to assemble he replied with “not a shot in hell you’re going to put that together. Do you even have tools?” Immediately, I shot back that I would now definitely make sure it gets put together.
There is nothing like the doubt of a person to make another person want something more. I was so determined, it didn’t matter how long it took (an hour btw). Between the doubt and the tools remark, I wasn’t about to let a guy make me feel inferior.
We gals do what we want.
xo,
The Ultimate Betties
Commitment
When you first read that word, did it scare you? Did you feel your anxiety level rising? If so, that’s a sure way to find out if you’re really a commitment-phoebe.
If you didn’t start hyperventilating when you read that, congratulations! You very may have a much easier life than the rest of them. But most of us know the real commitment issues come from men. We were recently talking to someone who put it perfect: “Men don’t make commitments, they fall into them.” It’s.so.true.
That guy you’ve pursued, yeah the one you keep playing the cat and mouse game with..don’t force him. It’s as simple as this..if it’s meant to be it will! If you can’t wait then it’s not for you. Make all the excuses you want, you can’t compare apples and oranges. Ryan Gosling in The Notebook and Ryan Gosling in Crazy, Stupid, Love two completely different “characters.”
If you get to this point where you’re sick of playing the game but you want a commitment you need to sit back and think..is this person really worth it? From there, you will know.
Think smart, with your mind and your heart.
xo,
The Ultimate Betties
Paying it Forward
A personal story for our What did we learn this week:
This past week I was at work doing my thing and this man came up to the bar. Immediately, I asked him what I could get for him and he replied with “I’m just waiting to pay, and how is your night going?” I then started to tell him about how dead it had been. He finished his transaction with his waitress and proceeded to walk away.
Almost immediately he returned and upon his return I noticed a $20 bill that he had slipped under my wine opener. I looked at him and said “Sir, you don’t have to do that!” he said “let me tell you this story” :
I was in Texas at my daughters graduation from a rehab center and I took her and about 30+ other people out to eat. The bill couldn’t of been cheap, I want to say around $1800 at least. I asked for the bill and the waitress told me that it had been taken care of, needless to say I was shocked! I found out that the man sitting in the booth alone on the other side of the restaurant had paid our bill. We were told that his daughter had also attended the same rehab that my daughter had. However, she was later killed by a drunk driver, and he came into this restaurant everyday and ate alone.
As chills ran across my body I kept my eyes locked with this mans while he finished his story. He said ever since that day every time he comes into this restaurant he likes to give something back in memory of what that nice stranger did for him. Paying it forward.
I was SO touched by this story, and he taught me a lesson too. That man gave me a $20 bill and I didn’t even serve him a drink.. just to do what he felt was right. Take a lesson from this story and pay it forward every now and then. Not only will it make you feel good it will make that person feel even better.
It’s the little things in life that make the biggest difference!
XO,
East Coast Betty
Top 10 Faves on Insta
We are no different than you: we are just as tapped into Instagram as the rest. We chose our top ten favorite profiles! Definitely take a look and follow them. You will not regret it.
1. Alana Blanchard – Model/ Surfer
@alanarblanchard
2. Hypebeast – Online Fashion Magazine
@hypebeast
3. Nasty Gal – New & Vintage Clothing
@nastygal
4. Insomniac Events – EDM
@insomniacevents
5. NYC Street Art – Graffiti in NYC
@streetartnyc
6. Black Milk Clothing – Leggings
@blackmilkclothing
7. The Ultimate Fitness – Fitness Blog
@theultimatefitspo
8. Birchbox – Beauty Products
@birchbox
9. Victoria’s Secret – Lingerie
@victoriassecret
10. Pasqula Rotella – Owner of Insomniac Events
@pasqularotella
Enjoy!
Xo,
The Ultimate Betties
Although we love a good drunk text..
don’t do it!
Here’s the thing about drunk texting, no matter what you “logically” think is acceptable to say at the time..it’s not. The next day we bet you cringe when you pick up your phone and scroll through the latest sent messages.
We have a solution, not that we use it all the time but it’s worth the try. And, yes it definitely works. By now we all have smart phones, and even if it’s not an iPhone, they all must have some sort of notepad or word pad or some kind of app you can download to write down those crazy thoughts in your head. That’s just it, when you get drunk or even when you’re sober.. whip out that phone and go to town! Curse out every dirt bag in your life if you want.
Never go through with sending it but the feeling of releasing those emotions and energies is powerful..i.e. the power of writing. Of course, do what you feel when you want to but our advice is to avoid that route at all costs and..
Our advice usually works,
The Ultimate Betties xo
Empathy
Hey Betties and Bobbies,
This is my first official entry as a Bobby, so here is a little back story into my work profile. I went to school for Fashion Design. I know.. hold your “what a typical bobby” scoff, until I finish. My mom passed away while I was attending school, so I never ended up finishing. I had this whole late teens/early 20’s crisis, and decided that it wasn’t for me. That is when I settled to work in the hospitality industry. I am, by no means, turning my nose up at ANY position in this field. In all of my experience, they literally are the hardest working people. Even if someone says “it’s the easiest job in the world”. Yeah, okay. It’s easy. However, there is far more to it than meets the eye.
Though I now have a career in the fashion industry, I still continue to bartend and serve because the people I work with, and work for are amazing. I have been there for 6 years, and they have literally become my family. I have seen so many people, come and go. ‘This one is a teacher, this one is a nurse, this one is a doctor’ so please be mindful of “the bitch who didn’t bring you a diet coke” or “the asshole who forgot your ranch dressing.” As I said before, yes, some may say it’s the easiest job but just like everyone else in the world, they are people too. You don’t know what is going on behind the scenes in the life of your server/bartender/hostess.
Yes, some will say, when you walk in the doors, your personal issues stay outside. THAT IS NEVER THE CASE AND YOU KNOW IT. That has to be some Jedi mind trick that no one has ever taught me, and I don’t believe it’s true. Do I put on a fake smile sometimes? Absolutely. Will I ever be rude to a customer because I’m having a bad day/week/month? Never. However, if you don’t treat me like a human being, I’m certainly not going to give you the same respect. So, the next time you say to yourself, “Wow, this service sucks”, take a different approach. That normal protocol of not tipping or asking to speak to the manager, because option A.) you just made that server pay for your meal or option B.) you potentially just got that person fired from a minimum wage job. If someone came into your job, wherever it may be and was rude to you, what would you do?
The point I’m trying to make here is all about: EMPATHY. This is totally not a religious, Jesus, rant. It’s about treating others with respect, WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER. No matter what, the common denominator is that we are all made of skin, bones, and blood. We all have a brain, and just because you have the time to go sit at a restaurant, does not make you any more superior than the person serving you your food and drinks. Just keep that in mind the next time you go out for dinner, or have a Betties night out. That girl serving you, and your Betties cosmos, COULD BE WITH HER BETTIES, having cosmos, but instead she is there taking care of YOU. Take the time to realize that and treat her right.)
xoxo,
Bobby
Happy Hands
We have come to realize lately, if we’re not doing something almost always, then were either sleeping or on the edge of going crazy.
Do you find yourself with far too much down time? Maybe you’re in the middle of a transition phase of your life and your “me” time is through the roof. Super, however there is only so much of yourself you can handle in one day. With all those thoughts circling around in there.. You’re bound to over think and we all know where over-thinking leads us… destruction of some sort.
Betties keep busy and though we thoroughly enjoy our down time we also are so much more productive when we just keep going. There is this saying “happy hands, happy heart.” Stay busy and you won’t dwell on things so much.
If you find yourself with too much down time, you better pick your ass up and go do something productive. Don’t get stagnant, challenge yourself everyday. Always make time for yourself but part of that is doing things for others as well.
Stay Humble!
xo The Ultimate Betties
Is she really a whale?
Ok, we have to get this off our chests because honestly it’s ridic.
Leave Kim Kardashian’s maternity style and her weight gain alone, for two different reasons:
1. She’s pregnant people, she’s going to gain weight. Shit happens. Yeah, maybe she doesn’t portray it entirely well, but she’s doing her own thing and we respect her for that.
2. There is SO much going on in the world than what she’s wearing today and how many rolls shes developed since Kanye’s seed has been implanted.
Bad choice.
We admit some of her choices are not the best but why should we give a flying rat’s ass? If any of you are ever pregnant and in the spotlight constantly, then you may complain. Other than that, move on. Read a book, do something productive with your life.
Over it.
Xo,
The Ultimate Betties
