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The grass could be greener

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We all know the saying:

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Well we call BS! Obviously it has and can definitely be proven true but when we hear that saying it just makes us think negatively. These Betties are always “half full” so we do our best to push the negativity out of our lives.

Just because you’re not particularly happy in the situation you may be in currently, does not mean you have to stay there. Everyone is putting the bug in your ear that what may be your next move won’t prove as hopeful as you’d like. They’re the ones who are missing out, not you.

GreenGrassRachel

They may be right, it could turn out to be a worse situation but again, you never know until you try. At least you will have that one up on them, taking chances and learning new things.

Moving up or on never hurt anyone in the long run. Do what you want!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Single, Sassy, & Proud of IT!

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Friday’s are dedicated to “What we learned” this week, but not today. A fan of ours posted a picture on Instagram that made us feel compelled to dedicate today’s post to being single.

Traditionally speaking being single is looked down upon. Especially the older we get. People will gossip and judge at weddings and say, ‘She’s pushing 26 can you believe she is still single?’ First off, we are firm believers that there is no RIGHT age to be married. We also feel that your twenties are meant for soul searching. If the person you are with now can deal with your mood swings all through your golden years; he’s probably a keeper. If he can’t…. on to the next one.

Our generation is very fortunate. Woman are completely empowered. More woman go to school than men. More woman these days are climbing the corporate ladder and even owning their own businesses. Basically, we aren’t just put on this earth to find our ‘true love’ and become the next stepford wife. We are able to explore and fulfill OUR dreams. If you aren’t already married or have a child (hell even if you do have a child) this is the time to travel, try out different career paths, enroll in school, go out with your girlfriends, and explore your options for dating.

Unless someone comes along that lifts you up, supports you in any endeavor, and allows you space to breathe – don’t settle. You are amazing and it should take a lot for someone to swoop you off the market. Once you are in a relationship everything becomes “we” or “us”. That person has to be extremely special. If they aren’t – have fun and let yourself be selfish. Until you are 100% in love with yourself you can never fully love another person.

So next time you are at a social gathering, ignore those glares, and be proud for taking this time to find yourself. More importantly, be proud that you didn’t settle for some schmuck who really doesn’t care about you, your well-being, and supports yours dreams and goals. We have come too far Betties to go back now.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Take a Risk

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Lately, we’ve been thinking of doing something out of our comfort zone. Everyone has their view on what a risk really is because let’s be honest not everyone has the same comfort level.

For us, doing something like bungee jumping, skydiving or anything outdoors that provides that rush of excitement and fear is slightly out of our zone. However, it’s always looming in the back of our heads.

Time is ticking and in life the best experiences we’ve had are the ones we either least expected to happen or were afraid of happening. The more you make everyday or every week exciting and facing your fears the better life will become.

Like-Skydiving

Have you done anything out of your comfort zone? If you have please let us know about your experience!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Summer Fragrances

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Summer is here! As we all know, it’s filled with beautiful weather, lavish vacations, cute boys, and itty bitty bikini’s. It’s our favorite time of the year! We want to share with our top ten favorite fragrances so you can smell lovely all throughout the hot summer days.

  1. Signorina – Salvatore Ferragamo
  2. Candy – Prada
  3. Daisy – Marc Jacobs
  4. Acqua Di Gio – Giorgio Armani
  5. Especially Escada – Escada
  6. photo 2Desire – Dolce & Gabana
  7. Miss Dior – Dior
  8. Cherry In the Air – Escada
  9. Beach – Bobbi Brown
  10. Flowers – Philosophy

These can be found at any department store or Sephora. Go check them out and see which one fits your summer personality.

Happy Wednesday!

Xo,

West Coast Betty

 

Gatsby

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We don’t usually do write-ups or reviews on movies, and we wouldn’t call this a review but after seeing the 2013 version of The Great Gatsby, we were moved.

In 8th or 9th grade we read the book, day-by-day, analyzing the plot, climax and character synopsis. After finishing the short read we were instantly in-love. To this day it is still regarded as one of the best American Novels ever written.

This is the third version of the book adapted into film and it’s incredible. The scenery, lighting and cast were very well thought out and planned. When we don’t find ourselves squirming around in our seats during a 2+ hour movie then we know it’s a great one.

Whether you’ve read the book or not, go see the movie. We promise it won’t be a disappointment (although our crush on Leo may have pushed our liking of the movie that much higher).

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Go see it..

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Resilience

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What did we learn this week? A Betty who can master being resilient will always be fen steps ahead of you.

Resilience is defined as the ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy.

For example: you have worked for an ass of a boss for two years. He promised you a raise and promotion. Instead, he fires you. You had your heart set on that. Not to mention, many financial goals and plans based off your new raise. Instead of moping or plotting your revenge; be resilient. Brush it off and go find something better.

In life you have to learn to bounce back from everything. Those who dwell on things can never move forward in a positive way.

So next time life hits you with a curveball remember to be resilient.

Xo,
The Ultimate Betty

Never doubt a female..seriously.

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Anything you can do I can do better.

Remember that little chant growing up? Well, last night one of these Betties got to prove just how right it can be.

I had a little build-it-yourself storage shelf to put together. As I texted one of my male friends the picture of what I was about to assemble he replied with “not a shot in hell you’re going to put that together. Do you even have tools?” Immediately, I shot back that I would now definitely make sure it gets put together.

There is nothing like the doubt of a person to make another person want something more. I was so determined, it didn’t matter how long it took (an hour btw). Between the doubt and the tools remark, I wasn’t about to let a guy make me feel inferior.

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We gals do what we want.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Commitment

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When you first read that word, did it scare you? Did you feel your anxiety level rising? If so, that’s a sure way to find out if you’re really a commitment-phoebe.

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If you didn’t start hyperventilating when you read that, congratulations! You very may have a much easier life than the rest of them. But most of us know the real commitment issues come from men. We were recently talking to someone who put it perfect: “Men don’t make commitments, they fall into them.” It’s.so.true.

That guy you’ve pursued, yeah the one you keep playing the cat and mouse game with..don’t force him. It’s as simple as this..if it’s meant to be it will! If you can’t wait then it’s not for you. Make all the excuses you want, you can’t compare apples and oranges. Ryan Gosling in The Notebook and Ryan Gosling in Crazy, Stupid, Love two completely different “characters.”

If you get to this point where you’re sick of playing the game but you want a commitment you need to sit back and think..is this person really worth it? From there, you will know.

Think smart, with your mind and your heart.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

The Giving Tree

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Are you the type of person who constantly gives? to the point where it’s a major fault and leaves you feeling depleted? Everyone occasionally feels like this, but there is definitely a ‘type’ of person out there that gives until they have absolutely nothing.

We are very into astrology (we always take it with a grain of salt) but one particular horoscope this week stuck out to us. “Being a giver is wonderful – as long as the recipients are worth of your gifts.

We aren’t advising you to become the worlds biggest bitch and say no so much it’s the only word in your vocabulary. However, putting yourself first is healthy. It’s vital to making yourself happy as well as successful. Everyone is always preaching that givers are far more rewarded than takers. MAYBE that is true BUT at what point will YOU be the one who is taking a little while others give to you. It has to be just the right type of balance.

Never let anyone take advantage of you or make you feel that you cannot get things accomplished YOU need to because their tasks are more important. It’s healthy to say no every now and then. Never stretch yourself too thin. The only person that hurts is YOU.

Xo,

West Coast Betty

All those eggs..

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Do you find that you put them into that little basket..too often? Yeah, it’s a problem with most people and we’re trying to teach ourselves a new technique.

You see, men, a lot of them always have a back-up plan. For an example, (sorry bobs) they always have something or someone there for them when things go wrong, or a back-up plan if something fails. It could be pig-ish or it could be genius. If we get over the fact that this is absolute truth and move on to the fact that it’s actually a smart move..snaps for the smart men out there.

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We’ve learned this past week again, not to believe everything we hear and be content with what we have. There is far too much going on in the world and around us everyday to have our minds set on just ONE person or ONE job or ONE thing. Don’t get us wrong, if you have a great job and a great relationship, congratulations! You achieved what you wanted but for the rest of us still trying to get that job or find that perfect mate, take that old idiom and use it.

Just stay true to you and good things will come your way. Promise.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Paying it Forward

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A personal story for our What did we learn this week:

This past week I was at work doing my thing and this man came up to the bar. Immediately, I asked him what I could get for him and he replied with “I’m just waiting to pay, and how is your night going?” I then started to tell him about how dead it had been. He finished his transaction with his waitress and proceeded to walk away.

Almost immediately he returned and upon his return I noticed a $20 bill that he had slipped under my wine opener. I looked at him and said “Sir, you don’t have to do that!” he said “let me tell you this story” :

I was in Texas at my daughters graduation from a rehab center and I took her and about 30+ other people out to eat. The bill couldn’t of been cheap, I want to say around $1800 at least. I asked for the bill and the waitress told me that it had been taken care of, needless to say I was shocked! I found out that the man sitting in the booth alone on the other side of the restaurant had paid our bill. We were told that his daughter had also attended the same rehab that my daughter had. However, she was later killed by a drunk driver, and he came into this restaurant everyday and ate alone.

As chills ran across my body I kept my eyes locked with this mans while he finished his story. He said ever since that day every time he comes into this restaurant he likes to give something back in memory of what that nice stranger did for him. Paying it forward.

I was SO touched by this story, and he taught me a lesson too. That man gave me a $20 bill and I didn’t even serve him a drink.. just to do what he felt was right. Take a lesson from this story and pay it forward every now and then. Not only will it make you feel good it will make that person feel even better.

It’s the little things in life that make the biggest difference!

XO,

East Coast Betty

Top 10 Faves on Insta

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We are no different than you: we are just as tapped into Instagram as the rest. We chose our top ten favorite profiles! Definitely take a look and follow them. You will not regret it.

1. Alana Blanchard – Model/ Surfer
@alanarblanchard
2. Hypebeast – Online Fashion Magazine
@hypebeast
3. Nasty Gal – New & Vintage Clothing
@nastygal
4. Insomniac Events – EDM
@insomniacevents
5. NYC Street Art – Graffiti in NYC
@streetartnyc
6. Black Milk Clothing – Leggings
@blackmilkclothing
7. The Ultimate Fitness – Fitness Blog
@theultimatefitspo
8. Birchbox – Beauty Products
@birchbox
9. Victoria’s Secret – Lingerie
@victoriassecret
10. Pasqula Rotella – Owner of Insomniac Events
@pasqularotella

Enjoy!
Xo,
The Ultimate Betties

Although we love a good drunk text..

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don’t do it!

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Here’s the thing about drunk texting, no matter what you “logically” think is acceptable to say at the time..it’s not. The next day we bet you cringe when you pick up your phone and scroll through the latest sent messages.

We have a solution, not that we use it all the time but it’s worth the try. And, yes it definitely works. By now we all have smart phones, and even if it’s not an iPhone, they all must have some sort of notepad or word pad or some kind of app you can download to write down those crazy thoughts in your head. That’s just it, when you get drunk or even when you’re sober.. whip out that phone and go to town! Curse out every dirt bag in your life if you want.

Never go through with sending it but the feeling of releasing those emotions and energies is powerful..i.e. the power of writing. Of course, do what you feel when you want to but our advice is to avoid that route at all costs and..

Our advice usually works,

The Ultimate Betties xo

Dear Candice

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Oscar Wilde said it best – “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”

Dedicated to Candice

Think of a stream with water running through it with no current. Now, imagine yourself swimming upstream against the current you created. I am sure many of us can imagine creating our own problems. I was the problem. Some people are quick to blame others for their problems. I know today that the currents in my life are the ones I have created. I produced them for myself and for her. I loved her despite myself. She loved me anyway.

The majority of my drama has been of my own making. People sometimes aren’t aware of the drama that they are in because they’re too caught up in their own bullshit (current) to see it. I’m guilty of this and anyone who knows me and is reading this is most definitely nodding their head up and down in agreement.

The best part about people who are drama is that they just bitch bitch bitch about everything wondering why they have so much drama in their life. And WHINE. Whine about everything. OMG,  just stop, save the drama for your mama and look in the mirror. You are no longer that little stream with a few little currents; you’re more like the owner of an amusement park operating the wave pool. What’s funny is you think everything is about you and cry regularly because Jane Doe deleted you from Facebook. Why you consider this Jane Doe a BFF baffles me because you guys aren’t even friends in real life. Half the time you think people delete you from Facebook when they’ve actually just deactivated their account due to their own drama. Ha! Come on, you know you’ve done this at least once. We’ve all done it. Don’t try and deny the fact that you thought one of your Facebook “friends” deleted and blocked you when really; they simply deactivated their account. Time to get real. Lesbehonest.

In all seriousness, regarding love and life – I was missing a key ingredient…self-love. I think it’s hard for people to love someone else if they don’t fully love themselves. See, the stream is my life. The water is me. The current is what I manifested while swimming upstream against the natural flow of life. At times it felt like a monstrous and considerably greater current than it was. Currents don’t have to exist.

Throughout my life, some of the currents have often felt like an undertow one could experience in the ocean during high tide unable to return to shore. It is only as of late that I’m aware of the undertow that I’ve created for myself. Self-awareness is another key ingredient. Otherwise, you are living a recipe for disaster dumbfounded why your life is a hot mess. The water was intended to be pure. It is for the most part. I believe we are all pure at the core of our beings.

How did I come to understand all of this? Love. Pain. Loss. Heartbreak. She was my greatest love and my biggest teacher. Sure, some may consider it a revolving door relationship, but boy did we try. We tried long and hard. Underneath all of the bullshit, we loved one another so very deeply. She recently told me I couldn’t possibly love her. I did. Very much. I still do. I always will. I loved her as best as I was capable. I told her some time ago if things didn’t work out, she’d always be the one that got away.

Who knows what forever really means anyway? But maybe, just maybe, nothing lasts forever. Or, maybe it does and it’s supposed to last as long as the forever you’re supposed to have with someone until forever runs its course. She saw me, the real me, better than I saw myself, and she loved me despite the current. But she was drowning and I was pulling her down. I didn’t know how to swim. How could I support us both out there in high tide when she was the air I was breathing as I kept going under pulling her down with me?

She couldn’t be my life-jacket anymore. She had to let go. She did it for both of us. I broke our hearts. I can see that now in hindsight but boy does heartbreak suck. It bugs the shit out of me when I hear people say, “It will be ok. Time heals all wounds.” But it does. It’s true. My heart is healing. Slowly. I’m learning. What’s most important is allowing yourself the time to do so. Time to heal. She’s forced me to dig deep enough within myself to find the answers because that’s where the truth lies. That’s the lesson. She’s changed my life.

I will never forget her. In the beginning she told me I renewed her capacity for love. You want to know why she has been so instrumental in my life? I’ll tell ya. Maybe I did renew her capacity for love. She should know she renewed my capacity for love too, more than words can ever express.

The lesson here – love yourself first. No one can be your life-jacket. Everyone around us is our teacher. Look for the lessons in everyone and everything.

XO,

Jay

Vitameatavegamin

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This isn’t quite like an I Love Lucy episode; we have found that taking vitamins daily is vital to your overall health. We aren’t getting any younger Betties, so we must prepare by taking care of our bodies now!

We chose our top categories and will list which vitamins you need to take to support that area in your life.

Beauty (A true betty takes pride in her looks)

Cognitive (to regain all of those lost brain cells from EDC & TAO over the years) There are many different vitamins in this category. We chose our two favorites.

  • Omega 3- Fatty Acids
  • SAM-e

Heart (the most vital organ in our body)

Digestive (diet pills are a NO; to maintain a healthy weight making sure you are on track with digestion is the healthiest and most effective long-term)

  • Multivitamin
  • Prebiotics
  • Probiotics
  • Vitamin D

Immune (An apple a day keeps the DR away)

  • Echinacea
  • Multivitamins
  • Vitamin C
  • Vitamin E
  • Zinc

Most of these vitamins are familiar to you but any that you are unsure of (beauty especially) do research. Find what brand works for you! Take it even a step further. If you have a local nutrition store; go browse and ask the store clerks for their opinion.

KEEP CALM & STAY HEALTHY!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties